Oh I know so many who lived that way by choice until REALITY smacked them in the face, then they woke up to the reality being that choice was NOT ok & if there is a feeling that the husband liked it that way & really doesnt TRULY support change other than with meaningless words that have no REAL plan for change behind them....then it becomes a war to really gain the independence they have come to realize is critical to their own future.

Yes, having a man taking care of you looks really great UNTIL something happens that makes it not look great any more.

Her way of going about getting her needs met isn't using good skills but there are times (from personal experience) not knowing skills we use what we feel to drive how we respond to a situation rather than using our wise mind & diplomacy.....but
I'm guessing she's not getting the response she is looking for to give her a warm fuzzy feeling that dad is really willing to work on change. I continually waited to hear that my H finally GOT IT...waited way too long......but sometimes if they think there is hope, there is a lack of action to finally end the marriage especially since it's normal in a divorce with a non working wife that the Ex is required by the divorce to pay for her education anyway, so if dad thinks she is sticking around just for him to pay for her education, it's likely he will be paying anyway.