Yep, its that safe distance to come and go without being drowned and being triggered from it.

We need to be able to move in and out of peoples lives with the objective to keep our AvPD balanced at all times.

People tend to keep coming and coming or we give something up that bites us in the *** later and ultimately tipping the scales in a negative way.

The punishment that AvPD inflicts varies as it has done since early childhood.
I have noticed that our AvPD tends to enlist a multitude of emotions to have us tow the line, or in a extreme it calls upon the services of depression as a final show of strength against us.

We are always standing with our arms stretched out between normality and our AvPD trying to keep both sides happy.