My son is 27 and back home and maybe he feels like he failed too...and possibly that is where the anger is from...and when he is around any of us family members he is snappy and super angry.

So, I have read a lot about this "his anger problems" and I have read that anger can be controlled. You are aware of what you are doing and you have some remorse about it which is only making you feel worse and more angry.

This is what I would like to say to my son who takes his anger out on me:

Please remember they have you there because they want to help you and they love you unconditionally.

Please understand that you have changed THEIR lives dramatically too and they are probably not snapping it out at you but holding it inside because they see your pain.

My son will not seek therapy and is totally against it. So what i have noticed is he is in better spirits and nicer to me...when he has been out...like to the gym...or a ride to a local beach...walks are good (he doesn't walk thou)...

There are many other factors in my sons life that make him miserable and they get taken out on me. I don't know if it is the same thing you are doing to your Dad.

But, again..remember they are helping you and if you are unwilling to seek therapy or medication than..you have to find ways to control your anger like do google searches...about it...bite your tongue or count to 10 before responding to your father.

Or even better. I would love if my son would sit down and say Hey Ma..I realize I have treated you crappy....I feel crappy about myself...and I am taking it out on you. I will try to get better. That would be the ideal situation....Please feel better.