well thats the internet for you. Some people will validate you, some will try to help you see things from a different perspective politely, some will just outright insult your feelings. It sucks. I try to read what it is people need from others that brought them to make a post. Obviously you dont really need advice on how to not think the guy was raunchy. you are needing support and someone to tell you it is okay to feel uncomfortable with what happened, and I gaurentee you it is ok to feel very put off by something like that.