Honestly....as broken as BOTH of you are in understanding & TRULY being capable of working & understanding & communicating with each other to REALLY EXPRESS each ones needs & laying both sides out on the table & doing the things it really takes to make a marriage relationship work as a partnership....I would write it off.

She keeps trying to hint at what she needs(hinting is the wrong way for her to express what she wants), you seem incapable of getting what she is hinting at because hinting is a skill that doesn't work.... & she is unwilling to go back to the previous way the marriage was (which seems to be the only thing you REALLY want thinking that is what unconditional love is all about...NOT).

Two people totally incapable of negotiating or bring problem solving skills to the table fails in marriage as much as it fails in business.....& yes, when a marriage gets to this point, solving its problems has NOTHING TO DO WITH LOVE....& has EVERYTHING to do with communication, understanding each others points of view & resolving & negotiating the problems that exist.

When a marriage gets to this point & both parties are not capable of the communication needed to resolve those problems....might as well right it off.

I would suggest that BOTH learn REAL PROBLEM SOLVING SKILLS before ever getting into another relationship.

Flowers & a card are NOT problem solving skills. Might have worked in the dark ages but we aren't living in the dark ages any more.

it's obvious that you either don't read or don't comprehend the things that have been said here or you could have many ideas that could possibly answer these questions. If this has been the way you listen in your marriage to what your wife does communicate to you (beyond just the hinting & cryptic comments), it's obvious why your wife is reacting to you the way she is, keeping her distance....maybe she WAS hoping that some day you would get it before finally realizing you NEVER WILL & finally writing off the marriage herself.