I've been angry quite a few times since I started this thread. Anger continues to be a problem, mostly when I feel disrespected. But, other times as well. Like when I have a strong conviction about something, and want to get a point across. I think I convinced myself that I tend to be on the shy side, but when I'm angry I can talk forcefully. There are times when I feel really angry, and don't know what to do about it. The times I feel angry and yet don't express it by blowing up at anyone are better than the times I do. But, I still feel bad about just feeling angry, and recognize that obsessing over anger can be a waste of my time.
I'd still like to get to the point where I don't need anger.
I've been reading Martha Nussbaum's book Anger and Forgiveness. She writes that many people can transition from the desire to hurt in retaliation....
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Most average people get angry. But often, noting the normative irrationality of anger, particularly in its payback mode, a reasonable person shifts off the terrain of anger toward more productive forward-looking thoughts, asking what can actually be done to increase either personal or social welfare. I explore the course of reflection that leads to this future-directed thinking, which I prefer.
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