I stated in my posts what I thought he should be doing differently. He should be proposing EXACTLY how he is planning on making her schooling work in the marriage instead of just giving general lip service to his support of her. He needs to propose sitting down together & hashing out the real issues that exist in the marriage relating to her need for having a career & how he will support her in achieving that. Reading here, he has NEVER HONESTLY addressed the REAL NEEDS of hers, it's all about hrelieving situation, sex & his love language & giving flowers & a card to try to gloss over what is really needed. Flowers & card don't come close to touching the REAL issues that exist between them & no, many women don't even want flowers & a card when there are REALLY DEEP ISSUES that exist in a marriage....they want the issue address & to know that the guy really gets it, not flowers.

If the marriage is ever to be resolved, thise are the INITIAL issues that need to be resolved....if she feels truly supported then the other things will be much easier to deal with. When the support we need is missing everything else will end up missing too & only anger will fill the marriage, not love.

EVERYTHING said about the wife is NOTHING BUT ASSUMPTION on all sides because NONE of us know anything more about her than dad has been willing to say & either side is just as possible as the other.