I agree. He came here for support, she didn't. He's willing to put in the effort, she isn't. Why has this thread become all about pleasing this unpleasable woman? Dad I'm going to try to be as kind as I can be with this. Why is your self worth so low that you are allowing your wife to treat you like an ATM and then play with your emotions giving you just enough slack to keep coming back? You are worth more than that and deserve more than that. I do believe you said you are in therapy and if you are would you consider discussing why you have such little self worth?