He is a narcissistic person. When I was 17, many years ago, I was forced into marriage to a 24 yr old man who sounds a lot like that idiot you describe. FYI, he almost killed me within 6 months and I literally had to escape for my life. I am now almost 50 and still find myself sometimes afraid he will come after me as he said he would.

The man you describe is a cruel animal. Those animals believe they own other people and even mentally feel like they collect them. Your emotions are his trophy. That is why he panics when you threaten removing them from him.

In order for you to have piece of mind you will have to understand what he actually is and how he is below human. To regain your power you have to decide to not get back into the water with that shark... no offense to sharks intended!