Yep. Check out those links. They describe his exact behavior. Many people are unaware that there are these types of evil humans n the world. We do not expect that from other humans. So we are shocked and feel bad about ourselves when it happens to us. But it is not our fault. These are not normal humans. Some have mental health issues that are biological. Others are just evil. Either way, you are not alone. Your job now is to understand the event, be real with the facts and kind to yourself, take back your power, and share what you learned with others who have this happen. Like I am doing with you.

One of the biggest things that helped me was when my therapist told me that while I could not control the past, or the memories and flashbacks... very cruel behavior and ncluding almost being starved to death... I was only allowed to eat frozen generic bread and drink water... unless I was willing to eat the dog food,,, I went from 118lbs the day of marriage down to 84lbs 6 months later... But while I could not undo the past I WAS and AM in charge of the NOW. If I am triggered, I have a choice at some point in that event to stop repeating the pain over and over in my head. He is out of the picture. My thoughts now belong to me. I make a choice when I realize that I am starting to spiral that I am NOT GOING TO GIVE HIM ANY MORE OF ME! It sounded dumb when I was first shown how to take back my power. And it hurt inside to learn how to do it. I believed what he told me. I thought he was right. But after seeing the truth, and accepting that I actually was a victim of abuse, I was then able to morn my loss and death of my innocence. Then I was able to understand that he may have killed my spirit at one point, but he lost in the end. Now I win.

With all of that I learned that the only opinion of me that mattered was my own.

I sleep in my own skin and in my own soul. My mind now belongs again to me. I have my weaknesses and daily issues due to very complex abuse and such, but the ability for me to no longer give more of who I am to the abuser losers of the past means that I now grow stronger every day.

Allow your mind to understand the truth. Love yourself and protect the real you that is still innocent and pure. And every time you have a random memory of him or something he said allow the memory to be there and thank your brain for reminding you of that lesson.

The brain is a wonderful thing. It will replay things in effort to get itself to understand the error in order to not make the mistake again. That is why it. goes over and over in th dark hours of night when we hear ourselves think. It is basic survival. Honor that and do not push it down or it will just come back. It will get louder and louder until it has been heard by the true you.

So listen to it the way a police officer or judge listened to a person mugged. Respect it. Thank it for the report. Confirm to it that the lesson is now learned, And develop a plan of action for keeping that part of you safe in the future.

All this will restore you back to yourself. Safe hugs!!!!