Trippin, in all respect, I "am" thinking of him and in so doing explaining to him what he could very well be dealing with in his challenge.

I am not telling him he is a cave man either. And I have been encouraging him to share the things she "does" say to him. She is not very good at communicating her needs to him, and she tends to do so with angry statements. So, I have been trying to help him think about what may be going on in her head, because his wife is doing a terrible job at that.

And "if" he ends up deciding to end this marriage, at least he will have some ideas about what was missing and how "he" may develop ways to prevent this situation from happening again. People go through their entire lives not understanding "what" went wrong in their relationship and one of the most common reasons is "lack of communication".

Most young men ask "what do I say to her, how do I do this" and often they fumble their way along when it comes to knowing how to relate to women. And often men get hung up on the physical because they tend to be more physical in nature. And a lot of times men talk "at" women instead of talking "to" them. It's not all that unusual for a man to not be able to pick up on hidden messages, which is what his wife is sending him either.

His wife is expecting him to do something with her he doesn't know how to do, BUT, I am willing to bet my last dollar that she saw him doing it with someone else and THAT is what set her off. It would not even surprise me if she doesn't even realize herself that's why she is so pissed at him. I would love to see that texting he engaged in, that would tell me volumes tbh. He was "communicating" with someone else instead of his wife and you know what, that can actually be more offensive then sex.

Everyone keeps saying the punishment doesn't fit the crime. Well, whatever she read really enraged her to the point where she IS punishing him for something he did not give her. It's as if she is saying "10 years of my life and you never did that with me".

Let's face the fact here, they were bored with the marriage, were nothing but room mates and for HOW LONG?

I have never said she doesn't have "fault" in this blow up. I don't think SHE knows how to communicate either. He never posts her sitting with him and "calmly" explaining to him what she felt was missing for her in their marriage. All I see her doing is communicating it in anger. Or, little comments like, "You did not have to leave". And then he doesn't know what to say and her reply is, "whatever". She is waiting for him to do something he doesn't know how to do. He clearly needs "help" but she is expecting him to just "know". Then she throws out comments that explain what she wants but the way she does that drives him away.

The input he is getting is how this is part of her master plan, but, I don't think that's entirely true. I think it's more of "you can't give it to me, sigh, and they part ways" both discouraged.

You know how I know this game so well? Because I watched my parents do it with each other. I tried to show my mother how to get my father to talk to her, she could not seem to get it. They would literally sit at the table and eat without talking UNLESS something needed to be discussed about the children. My mother would get jealous when my father talked to other women, "well, he never talks to me like that".

I don't think Dad or his wife know how to communicate with each other and this is not an uncommon challenge.