What I mean is she can go to school without having to get drunk around other men at 1am at my house with my children around while I'm deployed. Is that clear enough for you. Damn, am I on trial here!!!! I got caught texting someone that I never met in person. Did I mention that my wife had a password protected phone about 3 years before that even happened??? You act like she was a saint and done NO WRONG here. She decided to marry me and stay married to me. All the crap she done while I was deployed was wrong PERUOD!!!! If it where a gathering of friends it would be different, but all the one on one and this guy being around a married woman like that is desperate and pathetic. It's was BS!!! I could of given up as well but SHE DECIDED TO SEPERATE AND LEAVE OUR FAMILY. I'm the one tryin to get it back. If she didn't want it, or as you mentioned became bored to the point that we can't reconcile THEN JUST SAY IT, DIVORCE ME AND MOVE ON!!!! Is that to much to ask than to mess with my damn emotions. We are grown ups!!!! I tried communicating every way possible, offered a therapist so we could communicate effectively. Stop making me out to be this big bad ugly guy when I'm not!!