I created another thread about how much I detest it when people use the excuse "too busy" with me to return my call, my email, or when they either won't commit to making plans, or will cancel plans at the last minute with me.

Today I confronted someone about their overuse of the "too busy" excuse via email. I was upfront and said that what "busy" means to me is, the other person wants to be let off the hook for not putting in effort into the friendship, and keeping me around for when they're bored. They even had the gall to write that I was one of their favorite people, and they tried to skirt over the fact that they've been blowing off my social invites for the past year. How dumb do they think I am?

I have my own set of "favorite people" and I would never tell them some b.s. like that. When I lived in another country, that had a different time zone of my friends, I STILL made the effort to keep in touch by calling friends on weekends at specific times, because I like to be consistent, and show them they are, and their time is, important to me. Oh, they deleted me from their Facebook after our email exchange on Facebook. Pfft.

So, when I confront someone who has stopped showing me that I'm a priority in their life, they try to deflect and blame me for their poor treatment of me. Not cool. Not mature. Not very respectful of me or my time. All I did was tell this person, that I didn't like the way they had downgraded me and I wanted to know why. I see no problem asking someone "hey, why are you always blowing me off?" Telling me how busy they are, isn't good enough because we're all busy. It's about priorities and options. We prioritize which relationships are important to us, and make people options, whose connections to us, aren't that important. Why would that be offensive to believe? It's true.

I was civil in my email, and clearly explained that I could see them making plans with others on Facebook, while they would message me that they're too busy. One recent example of an email from them, was to email me to say they were too busy to get together for the next 4 months and went on in great detail about their work schedule, which was just a smokescreen.

No one is too busy. It just depends on what number you are, on their priority list. Clearly, I was not even on this person's list of priorities and instead of acknowledging my point of view and being understanding, they reacted in anger and wrote a few choice words to me which just verified that I was right all along about this person. I hate it when I'm right!