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Originally Posted by Nina_Xxx
Thanks for your post, however I am not depressed.
I do not belong to any family, I can do whatever I like but this will not bring me closer to friends. I do not have a bond with mother. I do not know what to do during the day. I have not changed for a long time and am not sure what to do. Nothing feels meaningful because I have difficulty building a true bond with people. I sometimes feel shame about this. Mostly I have acquaintances or shallow relationships. I have difficulty taking the relationship from there to the next step, I do not know how to be close to people.
I do not like this and want it to change?
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I have only had a handful of good friends my entire life, but here is how we bonded: Doing activities together--riding a bus to school together (my high school was 25 miles away), taking classes together, watching a favorite TV show, running, camping, biking, walking, etc. Admitting to each other the things we felt most ashamed of and sometimes laughing about them. Talking to someone and finding that you have common beliefs or interest. Talking to someone who has a different belief but wanting to understand (being open to their idea and explore it). Also, finding things about the people that you like/admire and telling them about it (sometimes I tried to be more like them
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