Hello all,

First and foremost I want to apologize if this is not exactly the right place to post such a topic, but I figured since it deals with a relationship that it fit the bill for the category.

I have been with my girlfriend for seven (7) months now and aside from one instance of oral sex on our second day of dating, there has been absolutely no sex whatsoever. My girlfriend refuses to talk about it in any meaningful way. What I've extrapolated from the miniscule dialogue we have had from time-to-time when the subject came up is that her first sexual experience with her ex was... not satisfying. In fact, her exact words were "I felt absolutely nothing."

I have found myself frustrated not only due to the lack of sex, but her avoidance of the subject. She says she doesn't like talking about it, and will display some manner of anger if the subject is pushed. Not long ago we got into an argument, and as it was calming down, I cracked the joke (at this point we were both cracking jokes) that I believe our problem is we both need to get laid.

Her response, exactly as she said it, was: "If you think that then you can f*** off." She does not even seem to think lack of sex is harmful to a long-term relationship, and has expressed in the past she firmly believes that there is no such thing as passionate sex. She believes sex is only for the process of making babies, and no pleasure can be derived from the act of sex.

I love this girl and she expresses her love for me in her own ways, and directly, but she doesn't understand not only the sexual frustration I feel with the complete lack of sex but also how it makes me feel inwardly about myself. It makes me think she doesn't find me sexually attractive, among other things.

Honestly, I have no one to talk about this. We live with her mother and step-dad, and while her step-dad and I are close, I don't feel comfortable having this discussion with him. He may have only been in my girlfriend's life for about six years, and only seriously in her life for the last three, but it is still his step-daughter.

Her mother understands my girlfriend better and is like a walking shrink, but again, it's her mother. It's not exactly something I feel confortable talking to her mother about. That, and the fear of even mentioning it to the woman.

Regardless, I just... I don't know. I really care for this girl and I'm happy I'm with her. Lord knows I had tried multiple times over several years before she finally came around, and funny enough, she was the one who asked me out. But the lack of sex is just... frustrating, and quite frankly causing problems in other areas of our relationship that she fails to realize or care to comprehend.

I dunno what exactly I'm looking for, but I am glad to have gotten that much off my chest.