His family lives in another state so no, they never babysit. There aren't many people, if any, people in his family that we would trust to babysit. My mom always does the babysitting. As far as my husband, there is absolutely no doubt in my mind that he can be trusted with our child. He realizes that the way he was raised is not normal and he is purposely trying to raise our son differently. He is a very loving, caring and devoted husband/father. He had been in therapy for several years and just recently stopped going, so that's how he was able to overcome and accept a lot of the things that have happened to him in the past. He just never specifically brought up the thing about his stepsister to his psychologist. When I say he has came to terms with it, I mean it's something that still somewhat bothers him but he has accepted that it can't be taken back and he is trying to move on from it. His psychologist is more than just a psychologist to him. He actually became a close friend of ours and he taught my husband taught my husband a lot of valuable information that he will carry with him for life.

He knows that the things he experienced during childhood were wrong and he holds his family completely responsible for what they have done but at the same time, he knows that people are a product of how they were raised. His stepmom is the way she is because she obviously came from a very dysfunctional home herself. That doesn't excuse her behavior but it does at least give some insight as to why she is the way she is. My moms husband is an alcoholic because she was sexually abused as a child by her own father. Again, this doesn't excuse the choices she makes, but people who have traumatic childhoods are more proned to having addictions. Many people who had abusive childhoods DO turn to drugs, alcohol, etc. they don't seek therapy or want to change. The thing that makes my husband different from the rest of his family is that he realizes that his childhood wasn't normal, and he realizes he doesn't want to be like his other family members.

He is not the same person as he was a few years ago before he started going to therapy. In those years that he went to therapy, I trust that his psychologist taught him the skills needed in order to properly heal and cope with traumatic events. However, I have just recently learned about what happened between him and his stepsister so I am not to that point yet personally. So, I do think it would be a good idea for me to go to therapy and for us to go as also. And, if he wants to go to therapy separately (by himself) as well to talk about the issue, I would certainly support that. But honestly, I think I need the therapy probably more than he does at this point, due to the fact that he has been in therapy for so many years up until recently, and I haven't.