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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
Me, too...struggling with it right now with MC and ready to try to find some way to break it...I asked via e-mail yesterday if we could spend a few sessions (H is OK with it) really focusing on the transference/attachment instead of just doing it piecemeal, in the hopes of really figuring it out and getting through it. He responded today that we can do that, but he couldn't say that we'd get through it in 3 sessions, that it might take more time than that. How the time between sessions processing is really important, too. But overall that it takes time.
So maybe you're trying to do too much too quickly? Maybe try not to push so much? 
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I know you and I have a lot in common. Am I really doing things too quickly? I've seen T for 7 years. I've never tried hard enough to have my adult Self run the show. I've let the child parts take over much of the time. So I'm confused. I don't know if I'm pushing too much or not
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Originally Posted by junkDNA
i agree with this... i am going thru something similar in my therapy... and i am at 7 years with this T. pretty much the same situation, my T is pushing me to grow and thrive. i will admit ive been stuck and almost slipping backwards. thats not to say that it's been easy and does not HURT LIKE HELL sometimes. but when i step back from those needy young parts within me, and get in my adult mode- i can see why this is good and necessary at this time. i can see the progress i am making even thru the pain. i am making more friends and doing new things. and i think the pain will lessen. this is just what's going on in my therapy, im not trying to say anything about yours. just sharing my experience
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I'm glad you're making progress, junkDNA. That's nice to hear. I know I am too, if only those parts of me could accept that T is not the answer. I know it but when I am in my session and right afterwards I get stirred up. I have a lot going on in my life but something is missing. Maybe if I had a partner again but I'm not sure I want that. I don't know what I want.
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Originally Posted by 1stepatatime
It sounds really tough! I hope these feelings lessen over time. I will say that you are fortunate that your therapist says that she does what she does out of love for you, I can't get my therapist to say that she likes me.. she expects me to feel it.. ugh! Sometimes they take this "where in your body do you feel this?" stuff too far.. anyways, I hope it gets easier for you. : )
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Thanks, 1step. I'm sorry your T won't say she likes you. DO you feel like she does? I want to work through it with my T once and for all. Yes it hurts a lot!!!
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Originally Posted by Elio
Hi Rainbow, I'm so sorry that this seems to be the path needed to get you where you are hoping to go. It seems very painful. I admire your courage to try something different and to stick with it when everything inside is screaming to do something else.
Have you and your T done any work around finding out how to comfort the different parts and how to have the "I"/Adult listen/mediate between the needs of the different parts? Or are you trying to just will power or tough love them into silence?
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No, silence isn't the answer. T has many times had me try to comfort my parts in different ways through different kinds of visualizations. She wants ME, my SELF, to ask the part what she needs from me. My stock answer was "but she wants it from YOU." She used SE and IFS with me. She had circles with my "tribe". She now is trying to have me get comfort from a blanket. She suggested massage or finding a partner to hold me. Is that what you mean, or something else?