Oh, and here in my city, there is a group of people that do cuddle time. Strict rules around things so that it is clear this is not sexual in nature. Intimate yes, sex no. There are lots of use of explicit consent for each action.

I don't attend because being held is not usually one of my big needs unless I am feeling exceptionally fragile.

I can complete understand why a group like this might not work for you. When I do want to be held by T, it is more about us than just being held. However, over time, it might be possible to meet someone in the group that you click with in just the right way.