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Originally Posted by Elio
Have you defined what the "it" is? It sounds like the "it" is to be held. Is it ever anything else? Like maybe the "it" is ice cream because of feeling sad.
Can you run a circle with your tribe? Or is that part of the "it" you want from her? Have you practiced running her circle or her imaginary circle?
The circles sound like what I was starting to do with things before T's vacation.
And I'm sorry if I am asking things previously shared or tried.
I started another thread because of this one and because of LT's stuff. It made me wonder how are we similar and different in what we've done with our child parts prior to therapy, what interventions were used, what worked, and what it looks like now for people.
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I don't think the "it" is just about being held. It's about unconditional love, attention, and safety from a mother, I assume. T has been there for me like that, but she's not my mother and I'm an adult now. I didn't respond to your post in my other thread, but I could identify with your experience with the toy cars, I think it was. Sometimes I would get that "this is it" feeling with my T too. A perfect bonding moment, or something like that. It felt like if only I could hold onto that moment forever! I've felt that sometimes in real life too but not often.
What does running a circle with your tribe mean? What does your T mean by tribe? Maybe it's different from what my T means. Mine means people I can count on and feel safe with.