I agree. But I, personally, rarely disclose all of it in a PM (in response to someone reaching out to ask how I'm doing).....

So....ask away and it's MUCH appreciated and kind and I'm blown away by the concern, frankly. But will you get the truth from me? Doubtful. You may get some of the story, or some of the issue, but much of it will get glossed over.

I know others do this, too. I have inquired and I have been able to see through the words, sometimes. Still, you can't force people to talk to you.

Those of us who were raised to feel unimportant are loathe to share our issues. But we were taught to be polite, no matter what. That's my problem, I know, but we are who we are.

I did once raise the possibility of having the ability of "going incognito" (occasionally) when we need to post an issue. I know, for me, it would have been fantastic to just be totally open and get responses from those here who would have no preconceived notions or information about me.