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Originally Posted by cielpur
I disagree with this completely. I have been attacked by you in my own thread, and in other PC members threads, that violates the community guidelines. So, technically I have been on the receiving end of your harsh comments, and have not reacted irrationally.
And, you have never chosen to speak to me via PM about why my opinions bother you; you instead choose to attack me in public threads, which again, violates the community guidelines. So, it's very disingenuous for you to claim that you speak to the person and find out their true intentions. You didn't do that with me, the few times that you've attacked me openly in threads here. So, that claim isn't true at all. At least not with me.
If you'd sent me a PM to discuss why my opinion on weak characters bothers you so much, instead of publicly attacking me in threads, I'd have more respect for your opinion. How we treat others' opinions that we disagree with, says a lot about character. If you don't like what someone believes, you have two choices: attack them for their belief, or PM them and discuss their belief with you, to inform you more about why they believe what they do. To accept them for who they are and what they believe, despite it being the opposite of what you believe. And, you don't have to accept the person's beliefs, if you strongly disagree with those beliefs. That's up to you. We are not required to agree with each other, all the time. That is not how life works. Or, just put the person on ignore on a forum, or on your email/text/phone.
Then you write that you know the person doesn't care about your opinion or respect you, if they continue to attack your opinions in threads. The same way I've experienced how you continue to attack me in threads here, and via the chat. So, that shows me that you just don't care or respect the opinions that I have.
And why is it ok, for you to attack people, in their threads, like you attack me? It's not ok! You have never agreed to disagree. Your communication style, I've experienced, is to personally attack other people for having a different opinion than you. And that's productive, how?
Everyone is allowed to have their opinion. If you disagree with it, you can 1) put the member on ignore or 2) choose not to respond b/c you know you'll attack them personally for their opinion or 3) respond that you disagree but go no further, with personal attacks.
Life is full of different opinions. And people disagree with each other. They can disagree respectfully or they can personally attack the other person, which I do think, is a sign of a weak character.
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So, give me an example, or a quote of something I said? You think that anyone pointing out something you did wrong is attacking. If people are allowed to have opinions, I am allowed to think that you are wrong. Attacking would classify as name calling or threats, which I have not done.
I'm not a yes-man, if you ask for advice I'm going to give it and not sugarcoat everything. If I agreed with everything you said and never called it as I saw it
that would be an insult because it would mean I thought you weren't strong enough to handle hearing my opinion.
And after I saw how you responded when seesaw tried to make peace with you, I didn't think it would do any good for me to PM you. I really think you need to get into therapy...and that's not meant to insult, it's because you really need help.