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Originally Posted by Elio
And another thought, is that my mother did not cease to exist or cease to be my mother just because I became an adult. Our relationship just changed. In the transference world, perhaps that is similar to how the relationship changes as the transference is worked through and the T starts to be seen as a T and not the transference object.
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Interesting--when I saw T yesterday, I was talking about what resolving transference would mean. I gave a few possibilities, and the one that she seemed to agree with was very similar to this--that MC would become less of a transference object, less someone to whom I'm very attached, but more just, as I put it, "A nice, caring guy who is helping me" (or something like that). Like, I could see him as a T, not so much as a paternal figure.