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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
Interesting--when I saw T yesterday, I was talking about what resolving transference would mean. I gave a few possibilities, and the one that she seemed to agree with was very similar to this--that MC would become less of a transference object, less someone to whom I'm very attached, but more just, as I put it, "A nice, caring guy who is helping me" (or something like that). Like, I could see him as a T, not so much as a paternal figure.
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My problem is that I see my T both ways. I like her as a T who is nice, friendly and caring, though that puts her in the "I wish we could really be friends mode), and I also see her as a transference object! I'm in between. Yesterday, when she held my hand I didn't feel anything special like I used to. That could be because she was telling me how she loves me and that's why she's doing this for me. I actually forgot what she's doing! I mean I know she wants me to be there for my parts, and realize that she can't be there for me all the time, but at the time I felt it as much harsher than it actually was. She wants to help me to heal, and that came across as totally sincere. It's those needy child parts that still get in the way.