Thread: im hurt by my T
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Old Jun 09, 2017, 08:03 AM
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Originally Posted by granite1 View Post
my T hurt me so much yesterday in therapy. i checked out and was so completely frozen .i couldnt move . i didnt want to move . i had to hold myself together . i have not felt this way in a long time . i was lost and felt trapped ,i could do nothing right . i was terrified .it seemed like she was just like the mother .out to shame me and make me feel miserable .she has said i do this to myself. i dont think i do . im still so hurt i feel she hates me and i cant even tell her that .
How did your T hurt you? The clue is "it seemed like she was just like the mother." That's transference. Your T is not ANYTHING like the mother. Your adult self knows she doesn't hate you. I think it would be productive to tell her you hate her. She will understand it's really about the mother, not her. Your feelings are all part of therapy. It will get better. Hang in there! Hugs.
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