LMo...Right on! I agree with you. I too, am the spouse of a man with depression...among other problems. I am no where near as informed as you...but I am learning more every day.

It is so frustrating when someone you love suffers from depression. I want to help him...fix him if you will, but I can't. If there was a "depression switch" I could just switch off for him, I would. I have to fight not to be overprotective of him...which is weird. I never want him to be hurt by other people's narrowmindedness...but he's tougher than I give him credit for.

Luckily, he's been very open with me and together we are learning the best coping strategies for us. I liked you record player analogy. Paints a very clear picture.