I am sort of new to this and still don't really understand how it is supposed to work and what exactly is the goal but I am going with it as it seems to be helpful in some ways...

So far, I have worked with 3 parts, only one of them is child part, 7-8 year old. The main part I work with is my judgmental and shaming part. I didn't pay much attention to my child part until recently

I think my child part is in control when I have a strange emotional reaction to something that seems insignificant to my adult self. I'm not sure if it actually controls anything on daily basis. But I'm starting to sense that I have another child part that is older, 14-16 years and I fear that one has controlled my life for the most part. Maybe I should mention that to my T and work with that part as well

I believe I ignored my child part until I started working with it with my T. My judgmental part wouldn't let her talk and shame her for feeling anything so naturally my child part stays in hiding. Although that has improved significantly and my parts are starting to like each other and I'm trying to take care of my child part now although she still hasn't told me everything she needs

My T has been using Ifs with me probably for about 9 months but it's not the only way we work together, it's just a part of therapy. It can get really confusing and frustrating for me and sometimes I feel silly but other times I'm surprised how it works. I'm hoping my judgmental part will let my child part open up and I can actually start feel my feelings in session