Hi 50guy,

You made alot of sense in the fact that men and women both do fall in and out of love all the time. Sometimes the lust or attraction we had goes out of the relationship, but if what is left is a deep love for the person then all is not lost. People's looks come and go and my are not great right now, due to me gaining weight. I feel this is a great part of why he is not attracted to me anymore so I don't blame him for feeling the way he does. His boss on the other hand is single and the same age as we are and still looks good. I gained alot of weight on my meds then lost it when I got severely depressed last year. But then gained it all back this past year and a half so I feel miserable about my own appearance. I hope you are right about how a person can realize that they still do love the person and not leave for the thrill of the chase so to speak.

Thanks for your support and sorry so late with the post, been feeling sorry for myself.