I have heard that before. But I wonder if I am one of those people who will question no matter who I am with. I have deep seated trust issues. I have never felt this sure about anyone before and I question it because I want to live close to my family and in my home town. The thought of not having my family around for birthdays, celebrations, emergencies, weekends or when my kids are growing up would be devastating, and isolating. Not to mention my closest friends since childhood are in my hometown and the place itself is the only one I've felt comfortable of the 5 cities/ states I've lived in. The thought of not being with my boyfriend is also devastating since I can't imagine myself with anyone else. I essentially feel I have to choose between the two and I will loose something major either way so it is natural to have doubts...

My sister has some valaidity because she points out his flaws. However, I believe everyone can have some flaw or something that requires compromising. It is up to me to decide if I am willing to accept that flaw. Her boyfriend has a drinking problem and I know I could ever be with someone like that but I have never demanded she break up with him. I don't think it's her place to demand that I break up with someone I love unless he is abusive (which he is not). I am angry at both of them for refusing to get along. They have both stated that they will never like the other and do not want to interact with each other.