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Originally Posted by Hopingtrying
Thanks, I am lucky to have found him but the truth is that I have had doubts sometimes. My loyalty has ebbed and flowed--unfortunately, I am can be a wishy washy person. One of the reasons I do love him so much is that he tries to be strong for me. But even strong men take "inventory"--we were watching the movie "Appaloosa" and during the part where the guy was deciding if he should leave the girl, he started listing all the reasons he should keep her despite what she had done. H said men do that all the time. I think girls just do it more obviously and more often!  If we think to hard about it, making choices can be scary--so maybe listen to your gut and heart though I know that's pulling you in two directions too!
As far as being scared of the future--bad things can happen whether you are married, single, rich, poor--life eventually sends unexpected things our way. We have to be careful to realize there is only so much we can control and some things that happen in life are tragedies (terrible events come together in unfortunate ways) or no one's fault. There is pain in life but hopefully there are good things too. But with friends and family you love--if you do marry it can be a heck of a wedding.  |
Do you think that most people have doubts at some point in their life? If you are with someone long enough you are bound to find something that doesn't fit well together/ requires compromise. My heart and gut are pulling me in two different directions which makes this difficult.
I know I shouldn't bank on him changing his mind but part of me wants to give him some time to see if he can possibly change his mind. He just made this statement a few days ago after years of saying he would live close to them. I wonder if over time him and my sister will get along for my sake. I only say this because he has changed his mind on other major issues. For example he was very adement on only having one child (for financial reasons) and I wanted two. He has now agreed to have two and has not gone back on it. Is this foolish to try and work the issues between him and my sister out enough that he is willing to live close to her?
Thank you for your words of wisdom. We can never predict life. If I chose to leave him over this and marry someone else I may have the same issue. They could be willing to live close to my family and then change their mind, or have external factors like work that prevent them for being able to. We never know where life will lead us.