I personally (if it were me) say no deal to anything until after marriage counseling. Are you still going to the therapist you mentioned in your earlier posts? Eork on your thoughts & feelings alone right now with thst therspist. Maybe that can clear some of your confusion also so you can make more clear decisions.

Im sorry but being a Christisn does work....her choices to throw that away indicate to me that you 2 will not be coming from the same place. Can you really honestly be happy in a marriage where your values are so different? If she is never going to be willing to go through marriage counseling eith as dysfunctional as your marrisge has become getting back together without working out the issues with a professional would be very unwise. That includes wine & sex also.