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Originally Posted by prefabsprout
Olive, the thing I am having difficulty in understanding is not that he and your sister do not get along (that is unfortunate but it happens sometimes) but that he wishes to isolate you from her if I'm reading correctly.
I guess if he chose to ignore your sister and not be around her that is one thing, but he is asking you not to be around her and by default not be around your parents too. That is a big ask IMO. You two plan of having children, that is a time when extended family can be a real source of support, but given his way you won't have that. I think he is asking you to make a pretty big sacrifice.
The questions I would be asking myself if I were you is whether I'd feel a few years down the line I may be resentful if I go along with this.
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He Understands that I am close to my family and will speak to them frequently and see them as much as I can. However, He wants to settle down farther away from them because he thinks they will make our life difficult in close proximity since they don't like him and keep asking me to leave him. If we live in the same area I know I would want to see my family a few times and month and he doesn't want to spend much time with them.
I have lived away from my family for a total of 5 1/2 years now and that gave me taste of what it's like so I know I would be happier if they were around when I settle down. I think I would feel resentful not having them nearby, especially because they would be my support system when children are involved. I also think I would be resentful of my family for refusing to accept him if I leave him.