Thanks guys! My t told me it is abusive too. She is going to help me find respectful ways to stand up to him. The problem is, I have tried to stand up to him plenty of times and he just tells me not to sass him. It drives me crazy because I am not a child. Once he told me to stop with the attitude or he would leave. At that I told him to see his way out. After several threats of him leaving again, I made it clear that I wasn't going to put up with that anymore so he stopped.

Yes bpnurse, he actually left me. He said he could no longer be sympathetic of my illness and he started seeing me as a lazy and incompetent person. We had lawyers and papers and everything. As for why I've stuck with him? Love? Afraid he'll get the kids because of my illness? I'm really not sure. But, I can promise that if it doesn't stop, I will leave at some point. He wears me down so much.