Here is the whole story; a childhood flame is now a good friend; she lives in Switzerland and I am California. She has gotten herself into some "trouble of the heart" over there (fell in love with a younger married man). Her son is mentally ill, so life has not been kind to her.
As the consequence she had a nervous breakdown and she was talking about jumping of some bridge with the rope around her neck, over some ugly love triangle where things have turned ugly, she is in a small town, and the wife and soon everybody would know, what she had done).
I have replied "That is crazy, that's not painless. That is not how you deal with this!"
So, after an hour talking on Skype on Wednesday, I have managed to calm her down (or so I have thought) and gave her the address of a therapist, but now she is not answering her phone, Skype, email etc. She lives alone and I fear that my talk has maybe gotten misunderstood or at BEST, she is just irresponsible towards me by not returning my call. I dot not know what to do. I am also getting a little pissed of if she is fine.."I told her to go with the flow, aging is part of life (accept it naturally. Gave her the metaphor of a river going into the ocean. (She is a life long rower) I said "rowing upriver" is always hard", down river is easy. You will get there eventually, why hurry. We all get there (to the ocean) and I have asked her;" and you know what the ocean is?" She said "yes, death" and after that she seemed very calm almost happy. Now I am "crapping myself in the pants", so to speak that I maybe I have just talked someone into killing herself"
I was talking about surrendering to old age. I did not think she was serious.