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Old Jun 11, 2017, 06:28 PM
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Originally Posted by bloomajs View Post

Maybe this isn't so much about my therapist at all. I think the trust is more about myself and my unwillingness to truly accept my DID diagnosis or my other parts. I want to hold back because of fear, guilt, shame, discomfort, and a million other feelings. But, my therapist and team want me to let them help. They're open to my doing anything that could be beneficial and my therapist, especially, supports me in every way. The only one uncomfortable with my bringing those 2 items in is me. So, that being said, how do I trust myself?
I'm not sure if my comment applies to what you're feeling, but here it goes...
For me, trusting my parts and accepting them enough to begin to truly cooperate within started with first being willing to suspend my perception of them as enemies. It was my T who helped me begin to do this, and one of my protector parts. My T encouraged me to see their actions and thoughts from their perspective, to be curious as to what made them tick, and VERY strongly encouraged me to show them respect (with a bit of compassion) when I addressed them. They all have reasons for what they do and at one time, if not currently, they have acted in ways that they believed were necessary for survival. And forgiveness. Honestly being willing to understand is the only thing that has helped us to begin to trust one another in little ways and to cooperate. That has made accepting the dx easier too.
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Last edited by Solnutty; Jun 11, 2017 at 06:30 PM. Reason: Added