Communication is about asking the person directly about the things you want to know. Not in an accusing way but in a truly wondering & wanting to know & understand their feelings way.

Any time we leave something up to ourselves to figure out where someone else is coming from WE ARE USUALLY WRONG because it can only be based on our own assumptions.

Have you ever heard the saying...."I know it's true because it came straight from the horses mouth" in other words...if you want to know what your wife thinks....ASK HER.