I have met good guys on free dating sites before, who were actively looking for something real and wanting a relationship. They are kind of few and far between I sometimes think though. Artchic, you will meet someone good someday. thanks for telling me to be careful too. Yes, I have met some sleazes too. I read an article once that said "you don't attract the wrong men, you settle for them/choose them.". It was basically saying a crappy guy can come along. Don't mean you gotta date him. I found this helpful for myself. I'm just thinking out loud. In terms of dating...I'm really not dating right now. I mean I'm on OkCupid again. But I guess it's a gray area. If i meet someone special, awesome. I'd love to. If not, I'm ok w this for now. I have stuff I need to work on anyway.