I am staying because I understand that I neglected my wife for the past decade. She's been there for me, and I could've been a lot better husband for her. She been through to deployments with me. She was a great wife to me and I took advantage of that and never really appreciated her, never complimented her like a husband should his wife. I was selfish and self absorbed in my thoughts and feelings. I never took the time out to understand my my wife's feelings......it took me 10 years and a separation to realize the things I done wrong in my marriage. Has she made plenty of mistakes while I was gone this time, yes she has. She is hurt and confused about what she wants because I MADE IT THAT WAY. If I were to treat her like my queen from the beginning, I know 100% for sure Inwouldnt be dealing with these problems. I built up her cold, hardened heart. It didn't happen overnight and I know to reconcile is not going to happen overnight. When you love someone, you want to do everything you can to make things right. She's asking for more time to figure things out...she was alone almost 18 months of my deployments. She took care of the kids during those times. All I can do at this point is be as supportive as I can and know things are not always what I want. That was one of her main issues with me was she thought I was controlling. In a sense, I was. All that did was push her away from me even more. She lost her identity because she was just a wife and mother, and because of my actions it hardened her. I don't know how much time it is going to take or even if it will work out. I know that I spent the night at her house the last 3 days and 2 months ago I wasn't even allowed over there....it's going to take time, love and patience and if you truly love someone, you will have to go through hell and back to show your true love for a person.

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