Glad to see you are looking at the big picture & seeing all sides that are involved to get it to where it ended up.

One thing I personally realized is that if the other person in the marriage really makes an effort to make needed changes then my willingness to back down reflects that also. Working through the issues is the key to bringing the marrisge back together & strengthning itwhen it does becsuse only then real understanding & RESPECT for each other grows. Love cannot exist when thete is no respect....that goes for BOTH husband & wife. Each have to have a foundation of RESPECT for love to grow otherwise the only growth direction is APART.

Glad to hear that there seems to be a level of improvement in your relationship. It takes much time to rebuild what has been broken over a long period of time. It takes WORK & PATIENCE to heal a marriage....sounds like a step in the positive direction..time will tell.