I completely agree. It's a major turn-off to me because I'd much rather be pampered with love than gifts. I'm not into decorations either. With the condition of my house, it would be like perfuming a pig. Besides, my son will be home on leave for Christmas - he's the only present and decoration I want for Christmas.

I'm not able to participate in any shopping or party situations, so this is a time of year when all my friends are too busy to give me a call. The few that do are highly depressed over the holiday, and it makes me feel sorry for them.

So much pressure to be "joyful" this time of year. We can't schedule emotions, but that's the way it is. Hang in there.