Hi Sam,

I understand the predicament you're in. I had to tell my boyfriend about an STD before we were sexually active. It was the hardest thing in the world for me to do. But I did it. I just told him I had something to tell him and I told him. He was fine with it. We just use protection.

As far as HPV is concerned, I always thought that men were carriers but don't show symptoms. That we get it from them and it can cause cancer. That was what I was always taught but I haven't done research on it for this reply. My best friend went through the exact same thing. She went through the procedure and everything. I'm pretty sure she told her boyfriend about the HPV but I don't know what happened after that, if he was treated or what.

Only you can decide what to do in your situation. None of us are in your shoes. I know for me, honesty was best. I couldn't not tell my boyfriend about my std before we had sex. That was a totally different situation though, since I knew before we took that step.

Good luck with whatever you decide, and please don't be afraid to post. Everyone has their own opinions about what they would do in a given situation. But only you know what you need to do for yourself.


Rayna