My wife lied to me about her childhood and her current work situation for a year now.

She told me that she was molested as a child.
She told me that there was a guy who sexually harasses her at work.
She gets infatuated with almost every other guy at work.

She confessed to me last week that she lied about the molestation, abt the guy harassing her at her work, and said she used to get infatuated with other guys cause she needs there to be a problem with men in her life.

I understand her needs to lie, her dad left them when she was 5 and her mother had hard time raising her. She never received the love and sense belongingness all her life. so she compensated them with fulfilling those basic needs herself.

but the day after she confessed i was still a bit upset, for obvious reasons and got in a lil fight. and after the fight she told me that we're even cause i have always broken promises to her. Promises like: the day after a fight, i promise that i will be ok but still not be ok; that i will not hold onto lil things she does to piss me off but do it anyway.

but all of our fights and lil annoyances she has remind me of the one main fight we ALWAYS have... its about the guy from work who harasses her and she always seems to be ok with. which was a lie all along to begin with. I always was reminded of him every time she did those lil annoyances, or fought about her attention towards other men. which is why she confessed cause every time we fight it goes back to him. She told me that her manager warned her about him being known to harass women, when she started working there and she got attracted towards that situation instead of him. so created the lies based on those warning for the sake of self-pity.

Now she wants me to believe that we’re even cause I was never ok with her lies and reacted badly to her lies. And is saying that I should not expect her to make amends with us but instead I should just move and not think about those lies at all.

I dunno wat to think or how to perceive this whole situation. This is my first serious relationship in my life. I really do love my wife who has other GREAT amazing features that I want to inspire and help.

I need help with this situation so I can rebuild my trust in her and move on. Truly move on.

If the story is a bit confusing please ask questions as I am writing this with a lil emotional turmoil. Thank you for your advice in advance!