i can relate. it is hard for me to really let go of all control in general. mine has been very good and receptive about the others, but it still is really scary for me. i get really on edge when i talk about them because it feels strange, and i don't know if i am doing it right or it's okay to talk about them like that.

only a few have spoken to her and pushed me out of the way to say something, but like you, i don't think she knew that happened because they are just really covert and would not really come out and announce who they are, etc. i don't know if they actually could do that because i can be more co-conscious with them, but i don't realize until after they have said something that they have even though i can hear it at the time. it scares me and confuses me...but i would be okay with them talking to her and feel like there is still an element of control from inside somehow associated to when they come out, if they do, etc. and am not quite sure how that even works since i don't feel like i am controlling it, yet maybe i am.

trusting a therapist is not easy though. sharing things with someone like this is really hard to do. i have seen mine for many years, though not consistent until the last year or two. it can take a long time.