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Originally Posted by thunder.sai87
She told me that she was molested as a child.
She told me that there was a guy who sexually harasses her at work.
She gets infatuated with almost every other guy at work.
She confessed to me last week that she lied about the molestation, abt the guy harassing her at her work, and said she used to get infatuated with other guys cause she needs there to be a problem with men in her life.
And is saying that I should not expect her to make amends with us but instead I should just move and not think about those lies at all.
I really do love my wife who has other GREAT amazing features that I want to inspire and help.
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As others have said, she needs to find the right therapist because she has many issues to work through. She is lucky that you love her. Sometimes it can be hard to admit to ourselves how much we have hurt the people (who have only tried to help us) we love so we blame them instead of admitting fully to ourselves that WE are the problem. What she did was significant and terrible so BOTH of you (including her) are going to have to acknowledge each others feelings and POV before you can put this incident behind you. It will take time. Hopefully, she is ready to be more honest and self reflective about her relationship with you. Marriage therapy was also a good idea. Since she has finally admitted lying to you--perhaps that can be a starting point enabling you to eventually improve your marriage but she needs to acknowledge (listen rather than telling you to move on) your hurt feelings in this matter. She is not the only person who has things to work through here....