I am noticing that the neglect/abandonment thing affects my job too. If people don't pay attention to me or get overbearing with me, I will close down or get super aggressive depending on my position.

And I'm in management. I run a successful business, but I stay a mess.

Today an incident happened (it's well known I have control/anger issues and it's known I'm working on it but who knows how long it will be tolerated) when I was on the phone with my "right hand" at the main office. We were discussing a problem, had to get off the phone, when she called back I was in the middle of something else and I answered because I wanted to talk when I finished. As we were talking, I remembered I was supposed to be doing something else and said "stop! Hold it! I gotta do this before I forget" and went about doing what it was and then she got busy on her end and I said "well when you get done call me back".

Ok. I felt the "she's not paying attention to me" and kinda got pissed. This actually does happen a lot where I will be on the phone with her and be in the middle of a conversation and she will just stop and be talking to someone else like our conversation doesn't matter.

And it drives me insane.

And I think she heard the anger in my voice. Cause the owner called.