Hello,

I have been married for 7 months now, my husband and I have been together for about 6 years. Overall we have an amazing relationship, this the second marriage for both of us.

I noticed that after we got married my insecurities got very much out of control. I have always been a jealous person but I could always control it, now it controls me. What happened two months ago has made it even worse...here it goes.

Since we started living together 2 years before marrying we had agreed that neither one of us would give out our phone numbers to the opposite sex unless it was absolutely necessary and we would first consult with one another. I was checking my husbands call log and I saw a number that seemed new to me, I dialed it and it was a woman. Instead of me telling him what I found I gave him a story about a male coworker giving me his phone number, to my surprise my husband responded with "OK babe, that's fine". To that response I said "wait a minute do you have a female friends phone number" he admitted he did and he also admitted he didn't want to tell me because of how "jealous" I am. What hurt me the most was that he saved the coworkers phone number under a male's name. This was a complete violation to our marriage. Even though he has apologize and I am certain nothing happened between him and this girl I cannot forgive him and move on. This girl can be his daughter, she is 19 while my husband is 39, and I have seen all the interaction and it's all work related. It has been two months since this happened and I still harbor feelings of anger and resentment towards him. Everyday I bring up the topic, everyday I open up the wound and make him feel like the worse person ever. I am currently seeing a therapist but I don't feel like she is helping me, I plan to find another therapist. My distrust is so out of control that I go through his phone while he sleeps. I never find anything, but at the same time I can't stop. I want to stop, I just don't know how. He has made all attempts to fix his mistake, apologized, I have the girls number, I have access to all the interaction but still, it's not enough for me. Every day I harass him about this and everyday he tells me it's getting to a point where he can't tolerate it. I really do want to stop but I feel that he betrayed me, he lied and hid from me and if he is capable of hiding something so small, what else is he capable of?

Please help, any advice will be appreciated....