Hi All. I'm new here to these boards. I was with my ex wife for 19 years, married 15 of those. Been divorced for 1.5 years and separated another 1.5 before that. I didn't want the divorce at all and it utterly devastated me. My life was a living hell and I consider myself lucky to be alive. I desperately wanted us to fight to save our marriage but my ex had made up her mind and wanted out. Three years later and I'm getting better at accepting the fact that my ex is never going to change her mind about us and the only thing left to do is let go and move on. There's a girl I want to start dating openly (and by that I mean tell my daughters (14 and 10) that their dad is seeing someone, but I'm loathe to do it as I'm afraid of hurting them or having it change the dynamic of my relationship with them. My 10 year old has pretty bad anxiety issues, and I certainly don't want to make it worse, nor do I want to sour things with my ex, as we actually get along pretty well considering the situation. I just so desperately want to NOT give a s**t about her at all. To just be able to move on and say heck with her and go live my life. But there are so many unknown variables and I really really don't want to make things hard on my kids. Any thoughts?