THANK YOU HOPELESSPOPPY! I am still struggling with all this. I am no therapist but I do know that if someone disclosed their trauma to me in anyway, shape or form I would say something instead of making that person feel like they did something wrong or the wrong way. I tried and got let down in the worst possible way.......avoidance! A ptsd symptom that that she modeled for me in this situation, and made me not want to trust disclosing again. Thank you for validation on how I am feeling, you really open my eyes.