When she first moved in we did sleep in the same bed. Don't mean anything was happening. Was agreed upon up front and I was ok with it. I won't go into why but thru my overthinking stuff we are in separate rooms.

I don't want to hear "too fast". No one ever knows that or when or where they will meet their partner. I never said we were anything. Everyone says "moved in" and jumps to conclusions. Yes it was a whirlwind but we are in a very comfortable place as friends.

Honestly I don't want to "date". If I did, I'd want to date her, and I honestly think she feels the same way. (This is the meat of it if it even makes sense)

But I want to go out and do stuff, but she doesn't necessarily want to be the one I'm dragging around all the time. She needs her space and privacy.

I'm more comfortable around females, actually I deal with males so damned much at work I just want female friends. And it's a hell of a lot nicer if you fall asleep cuddled up.

I just don't want sex.

But how do I go about all this without feeling like I'm leading anyone on, her or anyone else?

Or overthinking all this. I want to be able to go out and enjoy doing things while I'm working on myself.