This morning I was angry w/ my wife. Twice during our conversation I said, "it was a poor design"... then seconds later she asked me, "do you think it was a design flaw?" Yes, I do. I just said so.. twice.

I probably shouldn't talk to her at all in the morning... I keep getting in petty fights about stupid things.

Feeling like I'm not being heard is a trigger for me. I think she was probably just tired, she hadn't had her coffee yet, and she was distracted by the radio (as usual).

Every time I get angry I'm reminded of how harmful it can be to me... I don't remember a single time when getting angry has helped me. It's always been counterproductive.

Jim Byrne. "Anger pretends to be a friend, but it's really an enemy." He also relates a story the Buddhists tell. They say that getting angry is like the man who wanted to throw something at his enemy in retaliation, and the only thing he could find was a hot coal.