We've been married since 1999. And I'm starting to notice a pattern. It seems she is taken in by two-faced people.

It's happened before. Someone we both know would say nasty things about her to me, but act really nice to her. I told her about it, and she just blew me off... I can only assume she must have thought I wasn't being honest. I think she is starting to figure out what kind of person he was... and thankfully that guy is out of our life.

Now it's happening again. Someone she works with is saying pretty hostile things about her to me, and yet she acts like they're best buddies. I told her gently the other day that I'd be careful how much to trust the guy.

In both cases, I'd say it was a deliberate attempt to undermine our relationship.